Being a Stay At Home Mom

I want to start this post by saying I am beyond blessed that as a family I can stay home to raise our twins.  I thank God daily for the blessings and abundance in our life that allows me to do so, but I want to be open and honest with you all today and at the end of this post I want you to come back to the very first line and remember I AM SO GRATEFUL FOR THIS OPPORTUNITY!

Ok, after that little disclaimer you are most likely scratching your head thinking, what is going on with Sarah?  Well I have a dirty secret that I think many other stay at home moms have too…some days I do NOT want to be a stay at home mom.

Think of it like this you have one of the most stressful jobs around, this job is 24 hours a day and 7 days a week, this job entails bodily fluid clean up, it involves being physically on the move at least 12 hours a day…by now you probably have guessed I’m describing one of the hardest jobs around – being a mom

When I Don’t Want to be a Stay at Home Mom

I don’t know what I imagined my life would be like as a stay at home mom.  As a woman leaving the corporate world for the world of babies I’m not sure anything can prepare you for the transition.  Do I love it most days?  You betcha!  I love that I am the #1 person in my childrens’ lives.  I love that I get to feed them their first food, hold them while they teethe, I love that I get to watch them sit for the first time.

BUT I think we stay at home moms also need to realize a few things.

There will be days that you absolutely hate your job.  There will be days when you cry just as much as they do.  You know what I’m talking about ;)  Those days when the spit up is endless, those days when you aren’t sure you can even find time to go to the bathroom, those days when the crying won’t end, those days when your husband surprisingly gets stuck in traffic when that was your last thread of hope…one of ‘those’ days.

I was having one of those down right tough days the other day which got me thinking that I bet more moms out there have days like this too but we just don’t talk about it much.

As I lay in bed the night of my ‘bad’ day, I thought through the day.  I realized this is just as much a job as any other corporate profession if not MORE demanding.  And did I have ‘bad’ days as an accountant – sure!  Did I have days where no journal entry I posted was right – sure! Did I have days where I just couldn’t get my debits and credits to balance – sure!  Well then duh, if I had bad days as an accountant when I wasn’t ‘ON’ all day then aren’t I going to have bad days as a mom.

Of course!!! Ding, ding, ding – there will be days where I hate being a stay at home mom!

There will be days just like with all jobs where the hours seem long, there will be days where the clients AKA the babies just aren’t happy, there will be days when I make mistakes, there will be ‘those’ days…but you know what?

‘Those’ Days will pass and we will be left with all the other days…we will be left with all the other days full of smiles, full of first milestones, full of baby giggles, full of hugs…and that makes it worth it.

Newborn pic

One look at this picture and I realize even bad days are AMAZING days!

Moms – I’m here to tell ya, you will hate your job some days and that’s ok…cut yourself a break, pray for strength, and remind yourself that all the other days are some of the most miraculous, amazingly blessed days!

Creating Better Tomorrow Tip – In the midst of bad days, try to stop, take a few deep breaths and go look at a picture of your newborn in the hospital…do it!  Then let me know if that bad day seems so bad!

The Redemption of Jesus

Guest post time for this week! I recently did a quick book review of Beauty In Christ .  It is truly an amazing book written by fellow blogger Emily.  I asked Emily to share a bit more here on the blog.  I truly hope you enjoy her guest blog today, her book, and go stop over at her blog too!

The Redemption of Jesus

Hi!!! My name is Emily, and I’m super excited and somewhat scared about doing a guest post for Sarah, so here goes.  First of all, thank you Sarah for letting me do a post.  I’m humbled, and I hope I don’t bore you all too badly.

Beauty in Christ

Thanks Emily!

I’m 21 years old, and I blog over at http://beautyinchristthebook.com. Come and check it out!  I would love to have a comment and interact with you.  Don’t be shy!
What am I passionate about and what gets me excited?  Well, since about 15 years old, I began to really struggle with idolizing my body.  I got onto the internet, and I let myself get sucked into the vortex of weight loss advice, comparing myself with super models, desiring a certain number on the scale before I could gain happiness, and it was all so empty.

It’s been almost 7 years now, and I am now passionate about girls with eating disorders recovering through the power of Jesus Christ.  1 Corinthians 6:19-20 says, “What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s.”
I didn’t deserve Jesus’ salvation, but He came down, and He was our Savior and Lord, who gave Himself for our sins, that we might be cleansed from all unrighteousness.

We are the children of the living God, and I didn’t remember that as I was damaging my body and the ability God had given my body to be healthy and active to serve Him.  I put the idol of body and food before the worship and adoration of God, and it hurt me so badly.  Idols always hurt.  They consume us and destroy us as I know any girl with an eating disorder would say.

As I put off the old habits of being obsessed with food and my body, I learned the meaning of this verse more fully. 1 John 1:9, ‘If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.’  I didn’t have to dwell on the past and all the sins I had done or the moments I wished I could have back.  I had confessed and asked God’s forgiveness.  God’s forgiveness is full.  He cleansed me from ALL unrighteousness.

To girls who are struggling with eating disorders, if you know Jesus, He makes all the difference.  He gives us life and hope and meaning and joy.  He gives a light at the end of the tunnel, when it seems like all other lights have gone out.  He forgives, and He redeems.

I’m rejoicing in the fact that God has brought me a long way.  No longer do I have tears over the scale or wish that I could lose 20 pounds so I could just look right.  Yes, I do have those days of looking in the mirror and not liking what I see, but I have to remind myself that ‘Charm is deceitful, beauty is vain, but a woman that fears the Lord shall be praised.’

What else do I love?  Well, because of Jesus, I love my FAMILY.  I love to travel, to stay home, read books, write, cook, study counseling, talk to strangers, make new friends, find new workouts, run, be outside, sled, enjoy sunshine, WORSHIP JESUS, and of course connect with other bloggers who share the same heart to thank God for His amazing gifts of food and bodies that work well and His amazing world that we get to explore.

 

Psalm 8:1 says, ‘O Lord, our Lord, how excellent is thy name in all the earth!’  

Adopt a Soldier

Have you seen the movie ‘American Sniper?’ if you haven’t I highly recommend it…and nope I won’t give you a review…but I’ll say from the moment the movie started until the moment the credits were fully finished (yes the watch ALL the credits).  Dan and I treated ourselves to an early Valentine’s Day date and went to see American Sniper  a couple of weeks ago.  We both left in tears.

The next day I saw Dan searching away on the computer being pretty quiet.  I asked him what he was up to and he quickly replied, ‘Do you care if we adopt a soldier?’ I said of course not but what all does it entail.

adopt a soldier

Sign up today and make a soldier’s day a bit more MARVELOUS!

ADOPT A SOLDIER

Pretty simple!

You apply here

You are matched with a service man or woman

You email with them

You mail letters/cards to them

You mail packages to them

ALL AS OFTEN AS YOU LIKE

We are striving to mail something physically once a month and email at least once a week.  We love our soldier!  I won’t share his name here but he is currently deployed and has been for quite a long time.  We pray for him nightly. I truly believe by adopting a soldier we can all make their time away from home a bit more marvelous.

I encourage you and your family to consider adopting one of our marvelous service men and women.  Take it on as a project that everyone can participate in!