How to be a Perfect Mom

So perhaps you think that I will enlighten you on how amazing of a mom I am in this post and tell you all just what I’m doing to be a perfect mom…well sorry folks that’s not exactly what I have in store for you today with this post on how to be a perfect mom.

You see over the past 6 weeks (yes can you believe we’ve had these baby boys for 6 weeks already!!!) I’ve learned a lot about being a woman, a wife, a mom, and a Christian mom on top of it all.  As I was writing my 1 month postpartum blog I really began to reflect more than I had in the blur of the past month and a half.

When I need  a 'wake up' call I try to just gaze into their eyes and realize the miracle in my arms

When I need a ‘wake up’ call I try to just gaze into their eyes and realize the miracle in my arms

Last week Dan and I snuck away for a very quick dinner date at Olive Garden (yummy with a free wine sample, yes please!) while my parents watched J and M.  Well over dinner of course we talked about the boys :)  and DAn always makes sure to ask how I’m doing as well  (don’t worry we also talked about non baby stuff too – I think we jammed as much conversation into 2 hours as possible!).  I didn’t get emotional in the restaurant but I simply responded I’m doing good just tired and I wish I could be a perfect mom.

Dan in his wonderful way responded you ARE the perfect mom to these boys, you are you and that’s all they know.  I didn’t think much of it but I have thought about at the time, hello yummy food surrounded by adults and no diapers – I wasn’t into reflecting right then and there!

But later that night as I was up for a pumping session I began thinking and praying a bit. It had been a rough day full of frustrating cries, dual diaper changes, and exhausting sleeplessness.   You see I’ve been wanting so badly to always be there for the boys, to always know what is the ‘right’ answer, to always be able to calm them both right away, to always have the house clean for Dan, to always do it all…to always be the perfect mom.

But as I prayed to God that night for strength to raise my family in His way I realized He was trying to tell me (along with Dan) that by being myself, being a strong woman, focusing on Him, focusing on Daniel, and focusing on J and M I already AM THE PERFECT MOM.

So I came up with a few instruction reminders for myself and perhaps you too.

How to be a Perfect Mom

  • realize you aren’t perfect
  • realize you need strength from above day in and day out
  • realize you will no longer ever be #1 (you shouldn’t have been in the first place!)
  • realize your imperfections as a mom make you a perfect mom
  • and if you need reminding YOU NEED STRENGTH FROM ABOVE day in and day out – so pray when you don’t know what else to do!

Creativity Takes Courage Club

A few weeks ago one of my friends from college and the talented photographer behind our wedding pictures (check her out at Bare Bones Photography!) posted a little challenge on her facebook page.  She was calling for anyone interested in joining her in a creativity challenge, she’d provide supplies we’d provide the creativity.

Now with her vague description I was intrigued!  So I messaged her for more information.  The basic premise being – we gave her the money to buy us supplies.  Erin bought everyone in the Creativity Takes Courage Club the same supplies.  She then sent them (they arrived just last week!) to us all.  No other directions other than to get to work and have our completed project by mid December. Members from all walks of life and many that I do not know are joining in the fun!

The main idea here that is inspiring her (and intrigued me and many other group members! there are lots of us!!) how we will all take the exact same things and ALL come up with something uniquely ours.  None of us will have any idea what we are ‘up to’ with our materials  – then SURPRISE we all meet up and reveal our craftiness (or lack their of :) ). TERRIFIC right?!? A great reminder that we all are made up of so many unique and different pieces.  When we weave together are piece we are ALL beautifully and wonderfully made by Go.  And we should all celebrate the beauty of all the scraps that make us up!

I love this idea and I am soo happy I jumped on board!  So I want to show you all the materials now and then when I finish I will reveal to you my creation and some shots of others creations as well!  Take a look at all the fun materials in my box!

Love the fabrics!

Love the fabrics!

Pin cushion & thread

Pin cushion and thread – let’s get to work!

More fabric

More fabric and this isn’t even all that was in my box!

I think projects like these are such a good thing for us all – a great outlet to think outside of our ‘box’ and to let our minds wander from day to day stress (you know like twin newborns :) )

Would you ever join in a Creativity Club Challenge? Do you like crafts or do you find them tedious and stressful?

Creating Better Tomorrow Tip – Inside the box there was a quote under a picture of fabric scraps that reads..We need to stop saving everything for later – for another day, another year, for a time when our stitches will be straighter and our seams more even – and just allow ourselves, right now, as we are, to be good enough.

One Month Postpartum

All right as promised I will be giving you a few months worth of postpartum updates on me, mamma – not just the boys (but trust me they are way more fun to talk about than me).  And as I mentioned when I came up with this idea, I won’t be sharing numbers in forms of measurements. But I will be sharing how I am doing one month postpartum with my mind and body, there will be pictures of progress physically and you’ll see from my words progress mentally – but numbers folks don’t tell the same story.

So here it goes…

Post Baby updates

One month post babies!

One Month Postpartum

My Body

One Month Postpartum

One Month Postpartum


One month post twins

The human body is AMAZING!

  • As the caption below the second picture puts it – the human body is truly AMAZING!  I am so thankful that I had an awesome c-section experience.  I bounced back so quickly.  When I made the decision to go the c-section route, I prayed that my body would tolerate the procedure and heal quickly.  I knew with twins there would not be time for me to be ‘down.’ The Lord provided ten fold. I was up and walking the day of the procedure.
  • I have no idea how much I weight right now (yes I probably will find out :) ) but I think I’m carrying around 10 extra lbs right now.  I am still nursing – oh yeah that’s a whole ‘nother post – so I know my body needs the extra love lbs for milk making.
  • I feel squishy and just different.  My stomach is still ‘mine’ but just extra squishy – oh yeah duh that’s because it just had two babies in it!  I am just not as tight all over as before.  So though I may weigh close to pre pregnancy weight my body composition is much different.
  • I am MOVING – I workout in some shape or form every day.  Some days that is Couch to 5K training on the treadmill, some days it is gearing up for the T25 program, some days it is just fitting in planks and squats at random times.  But I am so happy that I am fitting in fitness!
  • I am ravenously hungry as I am pumping every 2 hours (yes I promise a whole ‘nother post on that soon) and working out some I am just constantly hungry.  I try to eat like a baby just around every 2-3 hours.  I am tracking my food intake mostly to see how it effects my milk supply but also so I have a general idea of how much MORE I need to eat. I stick to around 2000-2300 calories a day.
  • I am drinking TONS of water around a gallon and a half a day – nursing makes you SUPER hungry too!
  • I feel pretty good about myself!  I can fit into almost all of my pre pregnancy bottoms, tops well :)  those breast friends of mine are making that a little trickier.  Oh and working out with my new breast friends is a bit harder – my oh my I am still searching for the perfect sports bra!

My Mind

  • Taking care of twin newborns is the most amazing, terrifying, exhausting, rewarding, and downright puzzling job – all at once!  You might guess most days are overwhelming BUT they are just as much wonderful as they are overwhelming.
  • I have broken down a few times, some in the comfort of Dan’s arms, some in the comfort of my mom, and some by myself.  And I have to say a good cry is just what the doctor ordered every now and then.  
  • Why the tears?!?  I just feel so stretched between two crying, hungry babies all while I try to also fit in pumping for them to.  Sometimes there is no real reason for the tears…just exhaustion.
  • I remember right before the boys arrived praying one night that God would provide me with sane mine and strong body for the boys right away – I have to say I think He delivered.  I definitely don’t think I have postpartum depression but I have CRAZY hormones.  
  • Running on 3-4 hours of sleep is tough on your mind...but you know what helps?  Having an awesome support system from your husband and family.  I don’t know how I’d do this without Daniel and my mother.
  • I went to MOPS for the first time by myself with both boys last week and it was just what the doctor ordered for my mind.  And I learned that I’m not the only mom who fears there isn’t enough of me for the both of them at the same time (I’m in a small group within MOPS with 2 other twin moms!).

My Goals

  • Continue fitting in fitness at least 5 days a week for at least 30 minutes a day
  • Continue eating clean and fitting in weekly meal prep and planning
  • Take 30 minutes just to rest during the day minimum of 3 days a week.  I haven’t napped really since they’ve been born – I always seem to be pumping :(  or doing laundry when they are asleep.
  • Start praying more!  This is TERRIBLE but I used to pray much more often in a more serious fashion but seems like from moment one that my feet hit the ground each day I am go go go.  (Sure I pray that they’ll stop crying and sleep :)  but you know I mean real serious God talk praying!).  I want to start doing a morning devotional by the end of this month!


As I mentioned above I plan to do a post on my experience with nursing twins – I want to know what questions you have that I might be able to answer in that post?  Anything is open :)  Tell me below! 


Don’t forget to check out my guest post (sorry for confusion, Jessie had a bit of a blog fiasco while on vacation!) over at Jessie Loves to Run, I PROMISE my lactation smoothie recipe is now up!