So perhaps you think that I will enlighten you on how amazing of a mom I am in this post and tell you all just what I’m doing to be a perfect mom…well sorry folks that’s not exactly what I have in store for you today with this post on how to be a perfect mom.
You see over the past 6 weeks (yes can you believe we’ve had these baby boys for 6 weeks already!!!) I’ve learned a lot about being a woman, a wife, a mom, and a Christian mom on top of it all. As I was writing my 1 month postpartum blog I really began to reflect more than I had in the blur of the past month and a half.
Last week Dan and I snuck away for a very quick dinner date at Olive Garden (yummy with a free wine sample, yes please!) while my parents watched J and M. Well over dinner of course we talked about the boys and DAn always makes sure to ask how I’m doing as well (don’t worry we also talked about non baby stuff too – I think we jammed as much conversation into 2 hours as possible!). I didn’t get emotional in the restaurant but I simply responded I’m doing good just tired and I wish I could be a perfect mom.
Dan in his wonderful way responded you ARE the perfect mom to these boys, you are you and that’s all they know. I didn’t think much of it but I have thought about at the time, hello yummy food surrounded by adults and no diapers – I wasn’t into reflecting right then and there!
But later that night as I was up for a pumping session I began thinking and praying a bit. It had been a rough day full of frustrating cries, dual diaper changes, and exhausting sleeplessness. You see I’ve been wanting so badly to always be there for the boys, to always know what is the ‘right’ answer, to always be able to calm them both right away, to always have the house clean for Dan, to always do it all…to always be the perfect mom.
But as I prayed to God that night for strength to raise my family in His way I realized He was trying to tell me (along with Dan) that by being myself, being a strong woman, focusing on Him, focusing on Daniel, and focusing on J and M I already AM THE PERFECT MOM.
So I came up with a few instruction reminders for myself and perhaps you too.
How to be a Perfect Mom
- realize you aren’t perfect
- realize you need strength from above day in and day out
- realize you will no longer ever be #1 (you shouldn’t have been in the first place!)
- realize your imperfections as a mom make you a perfect mom
- and if you need reminding YOU NEED STRENGTH FROM ABOVE day in and day out – so pray when you don’t know what else to do!