From the day you find out you are pregnant you will hear, read, and receive endless tips on becoming a mom. Trust me even though we are over two years in now with the twins, I still receive just as much advice (unsolicited or solicited) on parenting. Don’t get me wrong, most days I need all the help I can get…but no one is you, mom, NO ONE. And NO ONE else knows your child, children, or your family like you.
So I’m here with advice (I know I just said no more advice, hang with me) on how to be the perfect mother.
I don’t have any enlightening feeding tips. You won’t find any sleep through the night tips below. I won’t mention no television or reading time. Nothing you will read below will you have ever read anywhere else before. And I want you to truly take time to slowly read through each one. Then read it again. Then print it out and read it every day you begin to doubt yourself moms. Because yes, just like you I do doubt myself in this crazy job of mothering.
Rule #1 Realize you need strength from your Lord Above day in and day out
I thought I used to pray before I was a mom, heck no. I find myself praying ALL THE TIME now. And I don’t mean just those prayers you say when they won’t sleep and cry throughout the night (but those are just fine too). I mean the prayers I find myself running to God praying for the mental strength and endurance for this job. I know He had this job lined up in my plans before I even thought it, but some days I just can’t seem to fathom how He could think I could do this job. Those are the days I hit my knees the most. And don’t forget, if you don’t know what words to pray, that’s ok, He knows your heart. I remember the early days kneeling and crying, and just telling him I didn’t know the words but I knew He knew.
Rule #2 Don’t sweat the small stuff.
Remember that the big picture is what is important. Spending hours on Pinterest projects, baby books, nursery decor, while fun for some may not be your cup of tea. Just because Suzy down the street has a perfectly decorated nursery and does pinterest crafts with her older toddler DOES NOT MEAN YOU HAVE TO. Sweat the big stuff – like making sure they feel loved. The big stuff – like always being there as their shoulder to cry on. Big stuff – like teaching them the value of their faith. But when it comes down to the small stuff, push it aside. You don’t have much extra energy as a mom so why waste on the stuff that doesn’t matter? Really…stop…focus on the big.
Rule #3 Accept there is no perfect mother
This might be the most important rule and the most important to being a perfect mother…accepting you aren’t perfect. Being ourselves is the only perfect they need, your imperfections actually make you perfect in your children’s eyes. Don’t worry or try to be the perfect mother compared to Suzy down the street. – when you focus on what others think of your parenting and that quest to show perfection…it harms your God given motherly instincts. Like with SO MANY areas of life STOP the COMPARISON and PERFECTION!
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Print these rules out and place them somewhere you can see them daily. And remember that your imperfections make you PERFECT!