As I mentioned in yesterday’s post , I had several ‘ah ha’ moments during church this past Sunday. The message this week was all about talking to yourself (the pastor specifically focused on Psalm 103 and I encourage you to read it!). How funny! I talk to myself all the time, usually my self talk is not very uplifting or motivating. Throughout my battles with anorexia that was (is) the hardest part, getting that negative voice in my head to shut up. So you bet when he said he wanted to teach us to talk to ourselves more, I perked right up!
The first key point that drove home to me came early in the message. I am summarizing his exact words (I requested the message on CD because it quite literally brought me to tears, and I want to listen to it again!)…but it was something like ‘most of the unhappiness in your life is when you allow yourself to talk TO you, instead of talking WITH yourself.’ I never thought of it this way, usually when my conscience speaks to me it is talking DOWN TO ME, never with me and for me. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not always talking to myself Nor do I always tear myself down…but I need to focus on being a team with my conscience and with God…I need to talk with myself and uplift myself. Now this isn’t easy, but I know if I begin focusing on self talk with myself instead of TO myself that I can do it. I want this to become habitual instead of something that takes an extreme amount of effort, but I will begin by making small steps.
He also mentioned one small step. It is an easy message you can start your day with at any time. Are you ready for this? It might sound easy but I’m betting it is a challenge for you too! First thing when you wake up talk WITH yourself and say, I am accepted because of Christ (ok, followers if you aren’t Christian, just say I am accepted!)…I don’t accept myself often, I degrade where I am and always look to find a flaw. I forget that I am loved by God and my husband (and my entire family!) for who I am and that I am accepted today, tomorrow, and forever. But I am trying this experiment and will start each day for the next week with I AM ACCEPTED BECAUSE OF CHRIST…then I’ll wrap back around next Tuesday and let you know how it is going…I urge you to start tomorrow! Then you can comment next Tuesday on how you are feeling and talking WITH YOURSELF? Will you join me?
PS Do you talk to yourself or with yourself?